I got rejected when I wasn't even trying to hit on the guy. A few years ago in December, I was at a bar with a friend when a guy dressed as Santa Claus was walking around. He walked up to my friend and said something like "Santa's giving out gifts, and all the pretty girls get one for free!" and handed her a trinket.
Then he looked at me up-and-down and added, "Yeah, you'd have to pay."
I was going through a real tough spot emotionally after my wife left me, and after a few weeks of pouting alone in my apartment I got talked into going out to a dance club with some friends. One of my friends found this group of girls who were all pretty and we all danced together until we closed the place down. There was one girl that I liked in particular and she seemed to like me too... We danced a lot. Even when the DJ played a slow dance song. After we all closed the place down I asked if we could see each other again and she said, "Sure! I bowl every Wednesday night at the bowling alley". We had talked earlier and had a love of bowling in common, so this was great. I told her I'd meet her there a 7pm and we went our separate ways.
Wednesday night I get to the bowling alley, and she's on lane 17 with like 4 other girls and two guys. I walk over with my bowling ball bag and stand near her until she makes eye contact, and when she does it conveys a look of who the fuck are you?
ME: Hi Emily
ME: It's Michael. We met at the dance club last Saturday...Her: Oh, how are you?ME: Good, ready to bowl!Her: Actually, we don't want any other people on our lane because we won't be able to get two full games in if we do. Why don't you get the lane next to us?ME (already starting to dread this): OK.
So I go up and pay the hourly rental fee for lane 18, get a pitcher of beer and head back. As I'm entering my name a bowling alley employee came up and said, "Sir, we cannot have just one person on a lane, there's a two person minimum, and a larger group just came in. I need you to bowl on another lane, or ask the group waiting if you can join them".
ME (looking at Emily): Emily, would you like to bowl on this lane with me? Apparently the other guy at the counter made a mistake. It's a two person minimum per lane.Emily: Ummm, no, I came here to bowl with my friends, I don't think it'd be right to leave them... Sorry.Me: Ok, maybe another time.
I got my things together, and told the employee that the new group could apply my paid lane fee to their bill, and offered them my unpoured pitcher of Mack and Jack's African Amber beer (it's delicious).
I was completely emotionally broken AGAIN for a while, and it led to spending a lot of time looking out of my apartment bedroom window overlooking a Kmart parking lot.
Got dumped by the girl I was going to propose to in a foreign city, halfway through a two week vacation. She just disappeared on me. Knew something was up when her luggage disappeared from our hotel room, she ignored every text I sent her, didn't hear from her for six months when she finally sent me a message: "How are you doing?"
I guess she got concerned, or as concerned as a heartless reptile can be, when I stopped updating Facebook, Instagram, and changed all my statuses. She never got a response from me, and went on permanent block. She then tried to blow up my Facebook, until I unfriended her. I may have talked to her had she provided an explanation, but she never did. Fuck her.
I posted this story in an AskReddit regarding the most cringe worthy thing that's happened to you. Here goes:
Me and my best guy friend at the time were planning on going to the movies to see Deadpool last year. We lived on different sides of campus, so we planned on meeting at the theater. I thought this was going to be like a date, so we split a popcorn and grabbed seats. We chatted a bit, and once the previews started, he leaned in towards me and I definitely thought he was going in for a kiss. I went for it, only to be met by his hand on my mouth pushing me away and a weirded out look on his face. Turns out he was trying to ask me to move down a seat because he had decided to invite his new gf (who I had never met/knew about) and he wanted to sit by her. Not only was I mortified, but he kept the popcorn for himself and this chick. First and last time I initiate plans.
I had someone come up to me and say they liked me. I smiled, then they said "hahahaha just kidding. You're a loser."
That shit stings for months, man.
I was 11. Although I still know people who would do this.
In third grade I wasn't very popular. I was the skinny white kid that wore what his mother made him wear and had no confidence. The bullies were real.
I had two girls in my class suddenly come up to me one day, link arms with me on each side and tell me how 'cute' I was and how they both wanted to be my girlfriend. This went on for days. I was so happy and surprised that any girl liked me, let alone two. We would go to recess together, eat lunch, talk about our day, it was great. I vividly remember both of them mentioning wanting to 'have sex with' me once. All of this came crashing down though when the girls original boyfriend announced to them their work was done and everyone proceeded to laugh at me while they left and went with him. He had set me up with them just for this moment of humiliation. The girls took turns saying things like 'you think any of us would like you?'
Looking back it was very traumatizing and I'm surprised this occurred at such a young age. It wasn't until I was a junior In highschool that I actually gained some confidence and self worth.
High School dance, I decided to try to put together a little get together with some friends and some friends of the girl I was taking to the dance. Had numerous people say they were going to come by and thought everything was solid.
After dinner and the dance, she said she wasn't feeling well and I took her home.
I went home to prepare for the guests because I figured this would still be an OK evening.
Not a single person showed up.
I found out later that the girl wanted to go do something else afterward with another guy, and everyone just had something else (better) to do.
I felt like I was rejected by the girl and numerous friends, and it felt like a gut punch.
I went to a dark place for a while after that, and haven't really had any significant friendships since then.
I am currently happily married, have a great family, and may do some after-work stuff with co-workers, but I still don't have any significant friendships that I could call dependable.
Still quite happy though.
When I was eight I was on a road trip with my family and my dad got lost. He got REALLY angry when he got lost. So to vent his frustration, he pulled over to a Jack in the Box, had me come in with him (he demanded that only I come with him-- no one else) and to relieve his tensions he sat me down and told me for ten minutes why he didn't like me. From the way I cleaned my room, to the way I did in school, to the way I SPOKE-- he told me how he despised everything about eight year old me. I'll never forget him saying, "I don't like a goddamn thing about you." Hard to take when you're eight and your dad is still Superman to you.
Maybe not BRUTAL, but it definitely makes me laugh in hindsight.
Met up with a girl from Match and we sat down at a restaurant and grabbed the first round of drinks. So far, so good. Decent conversation ten minutes in. She then asks if she can excuse herself a second while she goes to the bathroom. No problem. She walks away and two minutes later, the waitress comes over with the check. I gave her a confused look. Waitress says that she thought we were leaving because my date just walked out the front door and got in her car. Sure enough, ten minutes in was all this woman needed to decide to just back out, not even have the human decency to finish her drink and just run away.
Never even bothered to text her to ask what was up. Finished her drink and then headed back home.
I was on a blind date. Date was going well. On her way to the restroom she met anouther guy, and snuck out the back with him. The bartender saw everything, and gave me free drinks for the night, so at least I had that.