14 Ridiculous Redflags That Immediately Compelled People To Leave The Relationship
Red flags are very important and should not be ignored under any circumstances. The love you have for another person often forces you to ignore all of their flaws while acting like everything is fine, that’s usually because you let your heart make most of your decisions for you while totally ignoring the logical things that you have to do that usually include confronting your partner about certain ugly things that might make them mad. So you just avoid the whole thing while trying to convince yourself that they will eventually change.
After dating this girl for about a year, her parents surprised me with a contract stating I would propose to my gf within three months!! I thought my gf would share my concern, but she actually thought I was being irrational for not signing! Noped the fuck outta that one and later blocked that entire family from my life in every way I could.
I don't know the technical term for this behavior, but it became clear she thought she owned me. She didn't feel like going to my college graduation, and if she wasn't going, there was no reason for me to go either. I went to my graduation and this was actually the second to the last straw. There was a follow up fight over the graduation party, pretty much the same thing. It wasn't about her. It took a few weeks to finally get her to leave me alone.
We had lived together for about 4 months, after dating for about a year. Things were going pretty OK, until one day I got called into work super early, so I got home somewhat early. When I arrived home, she was also at home. Perplexed, I entered my apartment to find her watching TV, instead of being at work. When I inquired about the situation, she let me know that she asked her boss to cut her back to just three part time shifts a week, from her five full time shifts she was working. Even more perplexed, I asked for her reasons for cutting her hours. Her explanation was that 15 hours a week paid her bills, so she simply did not need to work more. When I told her that the rent, utilities, groceries and other regular bills still had to be paid, she said I could just work more to cover the community bills. Now, I worked in the oil fields at the time, and was already pulling 12 to 14 hour days every day, and I worked 11 days between days off, so there was no way in hell I was going work on my days off just because she didn't want to work. No matter how much we talked about it, she refused to work a full time job. The warning bells started ringing, and I got the feeling this was just the tip of the proverbial iceberg.We broke up two weeks later.No regerts.
I dated my high school boyfriend through the first year of college. He didn't work at all in high school, but I did, so I drove him around and paid for most of our meals and outings with friends. It sucked, but it was high school, so I didn't think too much of it. After we graduated, I told him I wanted to save as much money as possible for college while I worked over the summer, and I wouldn't be able to pay for everything anymore. He angrily asked what I expected him to do for food and fun. I said "Get a job?" He exploded. Called me names, cursed me out, all of it. I should have ended it right then and there. But I was 18. And dumb.One full year later, I was buying him clothes, paying for almost all his meals, and taking him to and from his community college classes every single day, while also working and attending the state university (on the other side of town) full time. I remember waking up one day and realizing I wasn't his girlfriend, I was his mother. I dumped him that day. I didn't even cry. I was so relieved.Tl;dr: People like that are parasites and they fucking suck.